Comments on: Exercise: Observing the party http://adaptivecoach.wordpress.com/2009/02/27/exercise-observing-the-party/ Coaching Businesspeople to adapt so success comes simply Tue, 28 Apr 2009 00:08:58 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Luke http://adaptivecoach.wordpress.com/2009/02/27/exercise-observing-the-party/#comment-47 Luke Tue, 03 Mar 2009 00:08:07 +0000 http://adaptivecoach.wordpress.com/2009/02/27/exercise-observing-the-party/#comment-47 Talking to people I don't know, especially talking to a group who know each other. There's a fear that I won't be accepted, that I'll look stupid or just out of touch (awkward, ridiculous) and won't fit in. Not sure if that's answering your question: let me try again. On the tape, approaching a small group that's already in conversation is difficult. Finding an opening, waiting for a break in the conversation, joining - that's where I hesitate on the tape. Talking to people I don’t know, especially talking to a group who know each other.

There’s a fear that I won’t be accepted, that I’ll look stupid or just out of touch (awkward, ridiculous) and won’t fit in.

Not sure if that’s answering your question: let me try again.

On the tape, approaching a small group that’s already in conversation is difficult. Finding an opening, waiting for a break in the conversation, joining – that’s where I hesitate on the tape.

]]> By: Vickie Gray http://adaptivecoach.wordpress.com/2009/02/27/exercise-observing-the-party/#comment-44 Vickie Gray Mon, 02 Mar 2009 12:44:57 +0000 http://adaptivecoach.wordpress.com/2009/02/27/exercise-observing-the-party/#comment-44 Wonderful, Luke! Can you find the source of that hesitation? As you watch yourself at the party, where and when do you hesitate? If you can slow the tape right down and go frame by frame, where is the trigger to stop (hesitate)? Wonderful, Luke!
Can you find the source of that hesitation? As you watch yourself at the party, where and when do you hesitate? If you can slow the tape right down and go frame by frame, where is the trigger to stop (hesitate)?

]]> By: Vickie Gray http://adaptivecoach.wordpress.com/2009/02/27/exercise-observing-the-party/#comment-43 Vickie Gray Mon, 02 Mar 2009 12:43:12 +0000 http://adaptivecoach.wordpress.com/2009/02/27/exercise-observing-the-party/#comment-43 Thanks, Paul! I wonder if there's another option - a "meta-self" that can observe all? Thanks, Paul!
I wonder if there’s another option – a “meta-self” that can observe all?

]]> By: Luke http://adaptivecoach.wordpress.com/2009/02/27/exercise-observing-the-party/#comment-42 Luke Mon, 02 Mar 2009 01:56:21 +0000 http://adaptivecoach.wordpress.com/2009/02/27/exercise-observing-the-party/#comment-42 I'm starting to engage with people, after many years of holding back. I am still hesitant - more hesitant than I need to be. I’m starting to engage with people, after many years of holding back. I am still hesitant – more hesitant than I need to be.

]]> By: Paul http://adaptivecoach.wordpress.com/2009/02/27/exercise-observing-the-party/#comment-40 Paul Sat, 28 Feb 2009 20:49:56 +0000 http://adaptivecoach.wordpress.com/2009/02/27/exercise-observing-the-party/#comment-40 Great exercise! How objective can we be about ourselves? Can we really detach ourselves from our senses, our emotions to be really observant? Can we separate our "Calculating Self" from our "Central Self" (Zander & Zander) Cheers, Paul http://reevesresults.blogspot.com Great exercise! How objective can we be about ourselves? Can we really detach ourselves from our senses, our emotions to be really observant? Can we separate our “Calculating Self” from our “Central Self” (Zander & Zander)
Cheers, Paul
http://reevesresults.blogspot.com

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